Individual Assignment 1: To Trust Or To Distrust

To  Trust Or To Distrust 

As Charles Dickens says, never break four things in your life - Trust, Relation, Promise and Heart because when they break, they don't make noise but pains a lot. And I have similar experience about trust.

The story happened at my university life.One day I told my friend some secrets deep in my heart. I thought that he will keep them and never let anybody else knows. However, he told other people my secret and made fun of it. His behavior really hurts me because I trust him, treat him as my best friend and tell him the secrets I never tell anybody. But he just doesn't take it serious.

When I judge a person’s credibility, I will follow the three rules. First and foremost, we have deep friendship and we all regard each other as true friend. Moreover, there has to be some virtues in his or her personalities that make me feel trustworthy. Last but not the least, he or she must be a good listener when I talk something deep in my heart.

From where I stand, the risk of trust can be:

a)       Your secret has been let out by your friend

b)      You are betrayed by your friend

c)       Friendship broke

One has nearly no choice apart from trust or distrust. The moment you make a decision is totally a battle between sense and sensibility. Some people will use their rational thinking to make a quick judgment, while other people just follow their heart, including me. If I choose to trust a person at that moment, I will persuade myself to trust him, even if I regret to tell him my secret after that. However, when it turn out to be that he betray me, I will tell my friend directly that I get hurt and I am so disappointed at you.

After this unhappy memory, I have learn a lot. I would upgrade my criterion of trust and no longer tell a person everything before I confirm that he or she is a trustworthy true friend.